He lost his wife and nearly gave up on life
1st September 2025

He lost his wife and nearly gave up on life

While leading a pastoral care session at MWS Christalite Methodist Home (CMH), a welfare home for the destitute, long-time volunteer Peter Maridas felt a prompting to speak about suicide—something he hadn’t originally planned. “I had prepared a sermon about faith, but that day, I felt the Holy Spirit urging me to talk about taking one’s life,” the 59-year-old recalled.

“I told the residents, ‘You have no right to take your own life.’ I explained that God created us in his image for a purpose. I shared my own story—how I married young, and after my first wife died of a heart attack, my world collapsed. I wanted to end my life. I even went up to the 31st storey of my flat, ready to jump. But something stopped me. And I told them, if I had ended my life, I wouldn’t be here speaking to you today.”

The next day, Peter learned that one of the residents present had been contemplating suicide. “He felt very down about the state of his life,” Peter shared. “But after hearing my story, he said, ‘If God can use Peter, he can also use me.’ He no longer wanted to take his life.”

Peter was deeply moved and greatly encouraged that God used his experience to reach someone in despair. “It made me realise there may be many others at the Home who are lonely or struggling,” he said. “I want to be here to bring light into their darkness.”

Carrying the torch of ministry to the destitute

Peter’s volunteering journey began nearly a decade ago, when he followed his then-pastor from New Life Bible-Presbyterian Church—located near MWS CMH—to begin providing pastoral care to the residents. For Peter, it was never just about preaching. “The most important thing is to bring a smile to the residents’ faces,” he shared. “We go beyond sharing the word of God and take time to build relationships and get to know them.”

After moving to Lutheran Church of Our Redeemer (LCOR) three years ago, Peter learnt that the pastoral care ministry at MWS CMH had ceased. “I felt a heavy burden to carry it on,” he said. In December 2022, he led a group of LCOR members, including his pastor, Rev Nick Singh, to organise a Christmas Carol Service for the residents—complete with a nativity video presentation, a Christmas message and Peter himself dressed as Santa Claus.

From there, Peter and Rev Nick launched fortnightly pastoral care sessions, offering spiritual and emotional support to the male residents. From a humble start of eight participants, it now welcomes 40 regulars. The pair also provide befriending support through small group “open talk” and prayer sessions, as well as conduct outings to places like East Coast Park and Gardens by the Bay, helping the residents connect and find joy.

A heart for those who have fallen through the cracks

A logistics entrepreneur, Peter sees his ministry as a calling to serve those often forgotten by society. “Most of the residents were admitted because the authorities found them loitering at void decks or sleeping rough. In many cases, they’ve been pushed out by loved ones and have no one visiting them,” he explained.

“Many of them struggle with loneliness. I believe God has called me to walk alongside them—to encourage, uplift, and share his love. I want to bring joy to those who need it most, and to be an instrument of Christ’s love. Just as God gave me hope to continue living after the passing of my first wife, I want to pass that hope on to the residents.”

Reaping joy through service

Through his years of volunteering, Peter has discovered a joy that far surpasses material success. “All my life, I thought happiness came from having material things—that money could buy everything,” he reflected. “But volunteering showed me a different kind of joy. I didn’t realise how fulfilling it could be to bring happiness to someone else.”

His awareness of life’s fragility also fuels his sense of urgency and purpose. “Time is short,” he said. “One resident I connected with was baptised last year, and just a few months later, he passed away. I was heartbroken—I shed tears. But it reminded me how important it is to share Christ’s love while we still can.”

“Everyone is running their own race,” he added. “When my time is up, I want to be able to say I ran mine well—that I served faithfully and lived out my God-given purpose.”

By the Methodist Welfare Services Communications Team / Photos courtesy of Methodist Welfare Services

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